Common Goals

Community is everything. Some people have a very strong sense of belonging in nearly every community they interact with, while others don’t feel that connectedness at all. As with most things, I’m right in the middle of the road on that sliding scale. When I was teaching I was very much involved in everything. I couldn’t go buy toilet paper without being stopped in Target by a student or two. My husband took to finishing the shopping while I chatted. On the flip side of that, I’ve also lived where I felt very isolated. The last time, I had just had a baby who ended up spending months in the hospital.…


Can You Say Trust Issues?

Maybe it’s just me, but I wonder if other authors experience this conundrum. When experiencing the labor pains of getting a new story sorted before I can even begin writing, I do a few things. I write characters sketches, take a lot of random notes, and write about the setting, or anything else that is rolling around in my head. Sometimes I let that all marinate for days/weeks/months, and other times I just start writing. For those moments I need to give the flavors time to soak in, I often find I benefit from talking about the story with another person. But it’s terrifying to share your unwritten story with…


One Too Many or Perfection?

I feel like I’m over-specializing my life, or at the very least, over-organizing my online life. For years I had a hotmail account that I shared with my husband. Yes, shared! When I started signing up for free this and free that, I decided to create my first gmail account to catch all that junk, but I really preferred using gmail over anythings else, so that quickly became my go to account. When I started my parenting blog ages ago, I used that as my main email, and it just naturally became my main fiction writing account. Why would I need more than one email address, right? Well, I’ll tell you.…


America: A No Touch Zone

My daughter was called a lesbian yesterday at school because she sat on a female aide’s lap. When she told me, I asked her, “What do you think about that?” She responded, “What’s the big deal? There’s nothing wrong with being a lesbian.” I agree. What’s the big deal? This kid meant it as an insult but my daughter didn’t take it as such. The reason? I think it’s because my daughter knows LGBT men and women. We are people to her, not labels. I’ve gone out of my way to introduce my child to the diversity in our world, from choosing to live in one of the few culturally diverse communities…


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