Blog Tour, Book Release, GLBT

RELEASE DAY!

Tangled Mind is out there ready and waiting for you to read it.

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A Christmas Eve release…. I’m not sure how this will go because so many people are busy with family activities. If you’re like me, you’ll probably be clambering for some alone time, so picking up a book might be exactly what you want.

I didn’t update you yesterday on my blog tour because I was swamped with work, so I’ll tell you where I was on days 5 & 6.

  1. Joyfully Jay – I share why I wanted to write about a codependent character and what I learned in the process of telling Beck’s story.
  2. Prism Book Alliance –  I talk about coping mechanisms that turn into self-destructive behavior, depression, and self-sacrifice.
  3. Inked Rainbow Reads gave Tangled Mind a lovely 5 Star review.

I love that Ms. Roberts didn’t shy away from the raw emotions. … This was an incredibly satisfying story, start to finish.

5-star
You can get Tangled Mind at all the usual places.

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Audiobook, Book Release, My Novellas, My Novels, News

Two Year Anniversary

Two years ago today I published my first novel, Fall Into You, and was able to tell people I was a published author. Wow!

SiFall Into Youmon Phillips always hated Thomas.

Ever since his black nail polish high school days, Thomas Schultz has seemed like a carefree, uninhibited wild child, in stark contrast to Simon’s shy, cautious nature. Now, from behind the safety of his hotel bar, Simon must watch, distracted, as Thomas becomes a shirtless rock star for every wedding reception they work. But when Thomas slips him the key to his hotel room, Simon enters a world where the fine line between hate and attraction becomes blurred, and finds more than he ever knew he wanted.

In the social upheaval of the 1980s, love is no picnic. The AIDS epidemic has reshaped the way people think about sex, and the discontent of Generation X drowns out any love songs. Despite the uncertain times, Simon finds himself falling in love. But when Thomas’s band makes it big, the simple act of keeping in touch across the silent miles becomes an obstacle all its own.


While meeting readers of M/M Romance out in the real world, I’ve heard so many people comment about how much they love this cover. TL Bland did an amazing job taking Simon’s obsession with Thomas’s red Doc Martins and bringing it to life. Honestly, Simon was obsessed with Thomas, not just his boots, but it’s crazy what we fixate on. I’m still stuck on the boots. Watching Thomas perform on stage was like foreplay to Simon.

When I wrote Fall Into You, I wanted to play with music from the late 1980s and early 1990s, when the story is set. Each chapter title is a different song released prior to when that chapter took place, so there was a lot time spend being an audiophile while writing this book. I listened to this while working on this book from nearly the start to the finish, and to this day, it is the only writing playlist I’ve had with lyrics in it.

So that was the first story I released.

And now there’s something new! Well, new for me.

My holiday story from last year, Feathers from the Sky, was released as an audiobook. I had to pick out a narrator after listening to only a few minutes of his audition. I ended up hunting more of his work down, and I’m very glad I chose Paul Morey. With a story that has at least ten voices to capture, he does an amazing job of making all of Cal’s family and friends sound different. Not an easy feat. Needless to say, Paul was a very happy find.

FeathersFromtheSkyAUDLGI don’t mean to be selling Christmas before Thanksgiving, but Feathers From the Sky technically starts after gift wrap is put in the trash. It’s a very family centered story with a huge family, way too many people sharing a small house, and more than enough love to go around, even the smexy kind. A perfect setting for a lighthearted romp in the snow. Come check it out.

Cal Thompson is going a little mad over the Christmas holiday, stuck in a tiny house with fourteen members of his immediate family. There’s no privacy and no boyfriend to help him cope – because Philip is still a secret, though not for long. Cal’s family knows he’s bisexual, but they’ve always assumed Cal would marry a woman and be fruitful and multiply. Just as he’s ready to set the record straight, his parents tell the family they’re selling the family house and tip this introvert’s world on edge.

Philip Sherman arrives at Cal’s family home to find his lover mourning the loss of his home, paralyzed by the abrupt and unexpected announcement that trumped his own. Though Philip takes the setback in stride, they won’t be able to avoid the calling of their hearts for long: Cal needs to reveal the truth of his relationship with Philip to his family, and Philip has a question he’s desperate to have answered.

GLBT

STOP with the Gay For You, Please!

I hate that label. It’s used on Goodreads all the time with my books because I write about bisexual men. They are bisexual, not gay for you or for anyone!

Never have I written about a straight guy who suddenly decides he’s going to give it up for another guy for whatever reason, but I’ve surely written about men who are bisexuals who are inexperienced with same-sex relationships or who later in life come to terms with their same-sex attraction.

This is not at all the same thing as gay for you.

Perhaps I’m overly sensitive because I’m bisexual and I’m SO sick of bi-erasure that I could spit. Like spit hard enough to break glass sort of pissed. I’m a bisexual woman who has been married to the same man for nearly 20 years now, but I’m still bisexual. Sadly, most people ignore me when I say I’m bi and say ignorant shit like, “But you’ve been married to a man for ages, so now you’re straight” or  “But not anymore.”

Uhm…no! I’m still sexually attracted to women, and if something were to happen to my husband (death, divorce, anything), I could just as easily have my next relationship with a woman as a man. I lost a friendship over this issue because, during the MN marriage amendment vote, I had one of my friends wonder why I was so passionately opposed to allow marriage to be defined as between a man and a woman. The simplest answer I could give her that truly resonated with her was that I might want to marry a woman some day.

She still didn’t get it.

So the gay for you label/tag obviously brings out a lot of passion in me. If you have sexual desire for someone of the same sex, you are probably not entirely straight. Our world is not a dichotomous place of straight and gay, despite how many forms we are given to fill in bubbles that only give us only two choices. The world exists on a continuum, one where I’m happy to plot myself for interested parties.

Bisexuality is more common than many are willing to even consider, which is one of the reasons I write about bi men. Gay men often dismiss bi men as “experimenting” or being “curious,” and the straight public doesn’t understand us bisexuals at all, unless in the context of porn created for straight men.

This is my plea: stop using the tag gay for you or the excuse of “I knew he was really gay!” when authors and friends are truly defining bisexual men. The world is grey, not black and white. Stop making people pick boxes because they make it easier for you to define. Instead, allow people who ID as bi to use the label they choose to use!

Also, if people are bi-erasing in front of you, stop it. We do exist. We really do. And we sure could use a few more advocates in the world.

 

GLBT, LGBT, Me Being Me, My Novellas, Thoughts, Uncategorized

Coming Out in Our Own Ways

So why on earth would someone who identifies as bisexual and is technically out be afraid to tell their family they are dating someone of the same sex?

That’s been a common question in the last few months related to a character I wrote. My character Cal in Feathers From the Sky has a very loving family who has known in theory that he identifies as bisexual since he was in high school. Now at age 26, he is basically coming out again or in a new way, because all his family has known about him is that he dates women. They’ve never once seen him with a man.

Coming out can be scary no matter how supportive your family might be, because losing that loving family is not something you’d ever want to consider.

When I wrote Cal’s character, I wrote from my own experience as a bisexual woman. According to my mother, I’d only been with men. Yes, I knew she was supportive. I knew she could no longer kick me to the curb, but she could shut me out of her life. Being cut off from her and her love and acceptance would’ve been horrific. She was the foundation of my childhood, the woman who made all things right when everything around me went to shit. To lose the women who had always helped me rebuild my world would’ve been tantamount to a disaster.

I did come out, but I was “old” when I did it. For a long time, I was happy allowing my mom to think she had raised a heterosexual daughter. But then I started writing M/M Romance. I was facing the truth telling of coming out in so many stories I’d written as well as read, and yet I was, in essence, lying.

Was I scared? Hell yes, even though my life was stable. I didn’t need to rock the boat. Yet, I wanted to rock it, because I wanted my mom to know the real me, especially as she was getting closer to the end of her life.

So when people say they just don’t get why Cal was so nervous, I want to ask those people how they felt prior to coming out to their families. My suspicion is that many of those people never had to do that. Because coming out is essentially what Cal was doing again, even if his parents and siblings knew in theory that he was bisexual. In reality, he was straight to them, at least from Cal’s perspective, which is truly what matters. If he ever experienced any sort of bisexual bias, he was even more justified in his concern. Bisexuality is hugely misunderstood, and the stereotypes of being confused, undecided, gay-for-you, or being easy are never far behind the admission, “I’m bisexual.” Cal thought his parents were on the “he’s confused” wavelength, and in the story, his own father admits to that even.

In the end, how the individual feels about exposing this part of themselves is the most important thing, not what other people think you should feel or do or say. You should never be forced or coerced to come out. Coming out happens in small stages. Cal sharing Philip with his family was one of those stages, possibly one of his last stages.

As for me, when I chose to tell my mom about my bisexuality, she wasn’t surprised at all.

And she still loves me.

Never once did I think my fear or rejection was unjustified though.

Book Release, My Novellas

Heartwarming Kink

That’s a pretty good description of Feathers From the Sky, which was released today. I re-read it after not seeing it for a good month, and there is certainly some kinkiness found in this story.

And snow!

Living in Minnesota, we get a lot of snow, and we grumble about it. Cal Thompson, however, loves snow, even shoveling it.

Buy it at Dreamspinner. It’s part of their Advent Calendar as well.

FeathersFromtheSkyCal Thompson is going a little mad over the Christmas holiday, stuck in a tiny house with fourteen members of his immediate family. There’s no privacy and no boyfriend to help him cope—because Philip is still a secret, though not for long. Cal’s family knows he’s bisexual, but they’ve always assumed Cal would marry a woman and be fruitful and multiply. Just as he’s ready to set the record straight, his parents tell the family they’re selling the family house and tip this introvert’s world on edge.

Philip Sherman arrives at Cal’s family home to find his lover mourning the loss of his home, paralyzed by the abrupt and unexpected announcement that trumped his own. Though Philip takes the setback in stride, they won’t be able to avoid the calling of their hearts for long: Cal needs to reveal the truth of his relationship with Philip to his family, and Philip has a question he’s desperate to have answered.

Blog Tour, Book Release, My Novels

Busy Day Yesterday!

Yesterday was a whirlwind of activity if I base it on the number of dings, whooshes, and beeps I heard from my computer and phone. In reality, I spent most of the day in my desk chair, but because it was the release day of Spark, I didn’t feel sedentary. On top of spending time talking about bisexuality over at Charley Descoteaux‘s blog, I spent the day posting over on Dreamspinner Press’s blog. I thought I’d give you a little run down of what I wrote about there so you could head over there and read the posts and excerpts from my book.

I talked about what writing a trilogy was like, where the cover inspiration came from, and also some of the images that inspired me along the way. Since Spark is two stories in one, I decided to share a little about my reasoning behind that, and I addressed some of the sensitive topics address by the book, all blended with several excerpts. Head on over and read or even listen to me make a fool of myself reading excerpts from my book.

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