The Big World

A wider perspective.

Coming Out in Our Own Ways

So why on earth would someone who identifies as bisexual and is technically out be afraid to tell their family they are dating someone of the same sex? That’s been a common question in the last few months related to a character I wrote. My character Cal in Feathers From the Sky has a very loving family who has known in theory that he identifies as bisexual since he was in high school. Now at age 26, he is basically coming out again or in a new way, because all his family has known about him is that he dates women. They’ve never once seen him with a man. Coming…


Bi Pride

Charley Descoteaux allowed me to play on her blog. Play might not be the best word considering I wrote about dispelling myths that are readily spread about bisexuals. Come on and read what happened after I came out as bi to my husband after we’d been married for fifteen years. We both learned a lot in the last several years. Bi Pride Week: Posy Roberts


Watch: Porn Sex vs. Real Sex

Charley Descoteaux shared this video on Facebook, and I knew I wanted to spread the joy here within about thirty seconds. Funny. Kitchen appliances and food!  


From Mommy Blogger to M/M …

I blogged back in the beggining of blogs. That’s not that far back in real time, but it seems like ages ago based on how quickly the internets have changed since then. I was one of the first mommy bloggers. I know, you’re thinking “Ick!” right? It fit me at the time. I have more than one degree in child development. I work with families in my real life job. I was a fairly new mom. But I sort of came to it by accident. Here’s how. My baby (she just turned 11) was born with several internal structure things wrong with her. They called them mid-line defects. She had problems…


Boxes Aren’t for People

I’ve been so busy editing and writing and filling out forms that I’ve had no time to write here. How horrid! I get very introverted in the summer which is probably what helps me get all the words down on paper. See, I have to be the ultimate extravert at my day job for nine months of the year, so in the summer I nest. I shut the doors, windows, blinds, and drapes, and I’m totally cool if they don’t open until I’m getting ready to go somewhere. This is the joy of being an ambivert, both introverted and extraverted. I understand both sides extremely well, and I do both…


Twin Cities Pride

I finally got to a Pride celebration larger than a postage stamp with a few unenthusiastic individuals sitting around a courtyard wordlessly handing out flyers. That’s Pride in my small, conservative town. I’m hoping this year will be better now that we have marriage equality in Minnesota, but the fact that we don’t even celebrate Pride here during June even ticks me off. So, I went to Twin Cities Pride with a friend and had a fun time. There was a ton of enthusiasm and people everywhere! I was immediately jazzed and probably looked like a totally out-of-towner. Oh well. I don’t care! I had fun! Here are some highlights.…


It’s Real!

The impact of the DOMA’s demise is having real effects on people’s lives. Binational married couples are now able to apply and be granted a green card for their foreign born spouse so repeated goodbyes like these seen in the video below will no longer have to happen. Parents will have a much easier time providing for their children, both legally and financially, without having to file stacks and stacks of paperwork. Two medical insurance plans can now become one. Social Security benefits. Military benefits, which include housing and so much more. Married LGBT couples will be able to file taxes and check the box that says Married, Filing Jointly.…


Relaxing Day

Yesterday I went to a friend’s house to spend some time with her and to let our girls play. The girls decided to have a lemonade stand. Us big girls chose to drink Leinenkugel’s Summer Shandy and play with wire. My friend is a jewelry designer. This is what I came up with. It was so much fun. Perfect day.


Parenting an LGBT Savvy Kid

On May 14, 2013 I signed my fifth-grade daughter out of school and drove to St. Paul, Minnesota so she could be part of history. Governor Mark Dayton signed the Marriage Equality bill into law. I met a friend there as well. She brought her six-year-old son for the same reason. This was history in the making and we wanted our kids to be there for this moment. This was big. We cheered and smiled and sat out in the super hot sun with sweat dripping down our backs, because this was important. Then we went downtown and celebrated. People were so happy. I’ve made very conscious choices about talking to…


Nesting my Loves

I love to write because I get to create worlds and make characters do things I’d never be able to do. That includes being able to say all those wonderfully bitchy id things that rush though my head, that my superego always shoves aside and chooses to ignore so my ego can stay intact. Damn psychology, and fuck me for just using Freudian theory! I love to read too. I love being taken on a ride someone else planned for me. I love having tears ripped from me and laughter bubbling up. Right now, B.G. Thomas is making me laugh like a manic. I have a feeling, he will soon…


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